Am I Asking the WRONG Question?

With Matt leaving before the kids and I are awake these days I've had sto switch things up a bit. When I hear the first child screaming and kicking the wall from his crib stirring with little coos I fall back to sleep get up and run down stairs to heat up some frozen waffles and grab mild cups. When I climb back to my room I flip on the TV and the fancy dancy bunny ears for a little PBS action {score!} then go grab the munchin. When he's in place with the always-preached-against-TV-babysitter I start the shower. My girls trickle in and have become accustom to mom's new routine and actually kinda like it because it involves cartoons. Some days when I'm done grooming myself I fight at least one child to finish their waffle.

This is how this morning went. Except today, before my hair was even dry, Izzie came to me in the bathroom and ask if I had any more waffles. "Awe, no I don't have any more up here. Did you already eat all of yours?" She said yes, and after I completed a quick search of the prisms including the inside of my hub's guitar, I went down stairs and made her another waffle. While I was waiting for that lil toaster op I decided today I should eat some breakfast myself. Filling a cup with off-brand apples jacks with the toasted waffle in hand, I returned to my bedroom. When I gave Izzie her waffle Jamin immediately began begging/whining for one. "I'm starving my children." I thought to myself and then handed him some of my apple jacks.

Vultures!

All three kids ran to me with a vengeance. With a big sigh I handed Jamin a few more and Maggie a hand full but ask Izzie to eat the waffle she ask for first. Mags knowing this was my only breakfast yet still dissatisfied with her few cereal pieces ask, "Mamma, can I have a cup of cereal of my own when we go downstairs?" Heart= melted.

A few minutes later I handed her the cup and told her to share with her siblings. I heard Maggie explain to Izzie, "You have to finish that waffle first. Then I have some for you." That is our mantra. You ask for something, you need to eat it, not waist it. Eventually I ask her to finish at least 1/2 the waffle so she too could have the amazing orange and green goodness her siblings ere feasting on. She finished the entire thing and Mags had saved her a giant pile all her own. {they really do love each other- swoon}

This got me thinking. My poor Iz the biz wasn't getting to feast on what she really wanted but it was basically because she ask the wrong question. She didn't know what options there were for her to choose from. She didn't know there was a better option. Not saying waffles are chop liver {I sure wouldn't have turn one down when I was kid} but she and I both know she likes cereal better. She thought another waffle was the option for her still longing tummy.

If you, then, though you are evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father in heaven give good gifts to those who ask him!

Matthew 7:11

I'm a slacker , evil according to Matthew 7:11, and didn't even think to offer her apple jacks and I say I love her?!? This whole, "Be careful what you ask for." I believe is a TERRIBLE thought process when it comes to Christ. Humans like me, maybe. I'm just dull enough to grab my kid a waffle when I knew she would be blessed even more by a cup of apple jacks. I know her! Awe, but how much more does our Father in heaven love us and give good gifts!?! How often do I think I know what will fill my growling tummy? How many times do I ask for specific things of God yet he doesn't give me what I've ask for because is smarter than me {duh} and God doesn't give me what I know to be good but gives me what He is BEST!?!

Asking God for what we think is the right solution to a problem is just scratching the surface of what He has in mind for how he wants and is able to bless me with. We ask for the basics. The bland. The mediocre. The selfish. By asking "Please fix everything." we're basically saying, "Can you make my days easy so I don't have to depend on you all the time? Yeah, thanks for that..." I'm thinking that asking for His will to be done in a situation might be is the wiser prayer.

In Luke 22:42, JESUS says, “Father, if you are willing, take this cup from me; yet not my will, but yours be done.”

Jesus knew we were doobers and that's why he talked about the older brother in Prodigal Son story in Luke 15:32. He's pouting outside not only because he was a bit self-righteous and thought his lil bro should have received a punishment but also because he was never thrown a party. His dad {a beautiful picture of Christ} responds, " All I have is yours." Dude had just never ask the right question.

I think I need to reevaluate if I'm asking the wrong questions! How 'bout you?

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2 Tips for fast & safe Outside Play {aka Fresh Air}

Yesterday I talked about the importance of walking it off or getting some fresh air when you and yours are stressed. Today I wanna share a 2 big tips I've discovered to ease this option for sanity as well as keep everyone safe:
  1. Prep ahead & keep necessities easily accessible
    • shoes, socks, & set of clothing for each child {blush from the mom of the PJ-wearing kids here}
    • outside-specific toys in a place kept outside that easy for kids to retrieve as well as clean up themselves
    • stroller ready for ride
    • bug spray & sun screen ready depending on the season
    • sunglasses & hats

  2. Set boundaries
    • "don't go past the tree" or "stay on the driveway"
    • teach children to walk on the right side of the road
    • hook a rope to a stroller to train walkers near you on a walk
    • place something in the way as a giant physical reminder of boundary as well as to keep other drivers a good distance from your little blessings

What fun tips do you have for gaining everyone's sanity once again or for outside play?

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STRESSED? Walk it off…

I was a brand spank'n new mother. Right at the rip 'ole age of 24. Magdalene, my sweet 1st born was a great sleeper since the moment she was born. Don't get me wrong, she had some great awake time with many friends telling me with awe, "Man! She sure is an alert baby." but when she was tired, she slept! We formed a good pattern like a week after she arrived: sleep, play {aka look around}, nurse, and then more sleep. She is quite the OCD type right out the gate; everything in order ;O)

Even at night Maggie would sleep great 6 hour stretches {after our pediatrician told us paranoid parents to stop waking her to nurse every 3 hours}. We all, Matt, Mags and I were sleep'n GOOD! Tons of people at church, mainly our students would say, "Wow, you guys don't look like most new parents...all tired and crabby." NOPE. We didn't! Thanks to the unnatural sleep of newbie parents. Then it happened. You knew it was coming. Our glorious Magnadoodle began a period of colic. That evil thing parents dread. Baby crying for seemingly no reason. Yeah, That!

My baby girl Magdalene was maybe 7 weeks old and she suddenly turned into this sob fest on a nightly basis. We couldn't nurse her enough. We checked diapers, kept lights low, sang, rocked, patted, played classical music, walked, nursed some more. Nothing was working. I'm embarrassed to admit that this only last maybe a week and we couldn't handle it anymore. I passed out, unused to this not sleeping stuff and Matt dealt with the girl. It was the night before we were supposed to take our youth on a trip out of town for Go Cart Racing. We Had To Sleep. Some tie during the night, Matt decided he was being of no use and laid Mags in her crib, rather than her cradle she's always slept in next to our bed, and planned to set an alarm for 5 minutes to check on her.

You guessed it, we woke up to the sun, me flailing about wondering where they baby was and Matt jumping to his feet sprinting to the other room. He returned faster than I'd even seen before baring our sleeping baby girl and said, "Oh my gosh. I'm terrible. Feed Her. Feed Her." I nursed as he frantically began getting ready for our youth trip. We'd made earlier plans for our pastor's wife, Sally to watch her for the day. Once we were both dressed, baby packed, and still 1/2 asleep we rushed to Sally's around the corner. We explained what had gone on that week as an apology for our uncharacteristically crabby baby. She reassured us she was a veteran and sent us off without a second thought.

We went, drained, on the trip and enjoyed ourselves as much as a mother worrying about the endurance of a friendship after leaving someone with a colicky baby. He made it back to the church and I immediately jumped into our vehicle and waited impatiently for Matt to make sure all the kids made it home alright. When we finally rolled into the driveway at our pastor's house there they were. Pacing the driveway.

"CRAP!" I thought, "She's never gonna talk to me again." As I got out of the jeep, Sally, holding our content Maggie quickly said, "We're fine. We just came outside a minute ago. We needed some fresh air. I don't want you to think anything's wrong. We weren't pacing waiting on you!" I didn't believe her. I just knew my kid had screamed her lungs out at my friend and we just happened to catch her as she'd snuck outside eagerly awaiting our return.

Well, four years later and I know Ms Sally was Not lying to me. I've learned how wise those words were, "We needed some fresh air." I wasn't very teachable as a fresh mamma {still not most days}. Sally continued that day with, "I did this with all my kids. It helped calm them down; I don't know why it works, but it does." There are some days that we are all at our wits end! And no, I'm not talking about the Wit's In from Adventures in Odyssey. Ya know the day. I've share mine many times here. There are many days when we are all at each other over nothing. I'm referring more than a hockey official and my selfish desires just make me want to yell at everyone because I can't seem to accomplish anything. Many days, we just need some fresh air! Stay-at-home-mammas, I KNOW it's tons of work to get people out the door much less finding the perfect time between naps, meals, and schooling to go out but it's worth it!

Our yard sucks. I'm just gonna put that out there. The entire neighborhood floods into our backyard during heavy rain and between the mosquitoes and poison ivy combo-ed with my fair-skinned allergy filled kids, we can't use it. We have found ourselves in our driveway many a day. I don't like the clean up after letting them "plant gardens" and pretend to make ovens out of giant holes they've dug in the front yard but it's worth it. We live on a cul-de-sac but our driveway is steep so it has taken some trial and error. Tomorrow I'm going to share 2 big tips I've discovered to ease this option for sanity as well as keep everyone safe!

Have you ever tried stepping outside with a crying baby? It usually works! How about a toddler or preschooler?
Any other stress relievers out there??

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Family Halloween Costumes {Thoughtful Thursday}

If you last minute like we are some years, here are some cheap ideas or couple and family costumes!

Couple Costume Ideas:

The Incredibles

Black Face Paint
Red Off-brand Under-Armor Long Sleeve Shirts
Black Ladies Panties
Yellow Duct-tape
Red Tights
Black Boots
Printed logo on sticker paper

Family Costume Ideas:

Fireman, Firetruck, Fire-dog

Fireman: borrowed an actual fireman's outfit

Fire-dog: dalmatian costume cheap from Wal-Mart

Firetruck: Paint Cardboard Box like a firetruck
Cute a hole in the top large enough for the person wearing the costume
Cut small holes in the corners of the box threading twin through the holes
Knot twin inside the box at the length the person needs it
Wear solid colored clothing under as to not distract from the costume

Farmer, Farm-Dog, Prize-Winning-Pumpkin

Farmer: solid shirt under overalls with hubby's flannel over top- prego tummy simulates pot belly ;o)

Prize-Winning-Pumpkin: pumpkin costume borrowed from family friends

Farm-Dog: borrowed Awana Cubbie Bear costume
Safety pin fake fur from the Walley World cut into long floppy ears over the bear ears
Added a scarf to hide gap between head and neck of costume

"Picnic"

Diet Coke Can: duct-tapped together 2 old banners
Loop the ends around 2 hoola hoops and duct-tape

Lady Bug: dalmatian costume cheap from Wal-Mart

Chicken Leg: brown sweat pants that fit and hubbies larger zip-up hoody stuffed with prego tummy and an extra pillow

Bag of Grapes: 2 clear 'gift bags' that are made to go over gift baskets
fill with green balloons
knotted together at the right length over shoulders {easy to remove if uncomfortable}
Solid colored clothing under costume as to not take away from actual costume.

"3 Little Pigs"

3 Little Piggies:
little girls: pink sweat pants under skirts
long sleeve pink shirt *either under another shirt or a shirt that already had pink sleeves hanging out

adult: pink leggings under shirt
Pink long sleeve shirt under another shirt

Everyone: Pink small triangles glued on larger triangle shaped ears hot-glued onto a headband
Foam cut into a spiral and pulled loose stitched to the booty of the skirts
Face paint on a pink noses

Big Bad Wolf: gray hoodie with gray foam triangle cut out ears stitched to the hood
flannel shirt over hoodie
overalls over shirt and hoodie with another foam cut out in the shape of a tale stitched on to the booty of the overalls
Face paint {or use mascara} on a black nose

Brick House: Red long sleeve t-shirt with bricks painted on with acrylic paint
Paint a roof on to a folded piece of cardboard safety pinned onto a stocking cap

Don't forget to take some fun pictures of your awesome costumes and print some prints, make a keepsake or even an entire scrapbook!

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Preparing a Place for Guest {on hospitality}

Since hearing the story of The Shunammite Woman in 2 Kings 4:8-17 , I wanted to be that host! Always ready with simple essentials for guest, whether they are just coming to chat or stopping for an over-nighter. Having this mindset has helped me be prepared and not frantic when just such an occasion happens. And being prepared has made me eager! Eager to have guest in my home. I enjoy having people in my home on a regular basis.

I'm at the Homemaker's Challenge today sharing with them some of my thoughts on 'preparing a place' for guests, specifically overnight guests, although there's good info for everyone including those who don't have that actual room for them.

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