In Every Season
Be Honest, Even When It Hurts.
Honesty? When is the phrase "be honest, even when it hurts" a biblical thought?
I've always hated those people who said terrible hurtful things for the sake of "honesty". Ya know, "that dress make your butt look really big." That kind of thing. Just mean. No need for it. Why would you 'put that out there'?
Then there are those times when you ask someone how they're doing and they actually tell you. The Entire story. Yucky details and all. You get all uncomfortable. AWWWWkward!
Yep, that was me the other day. A friend asked how I was "dealing" with our transition...I went all awkward and yacked it up via text. Then, after a good cry, I sat down to write my 5 minute Friday Post and that's when it got even more awkward...Ugg I want to apologize if anyone is feeling that way about my 5 minute Friday post: Perspective. My intent was to write from a writing prompt. NOT to say unnecessary things to be hurtful. I would also like to say that truth does set you free. After hitting "publish" I knew I might get flack. One of the rules about 5MF is no editing. Which is really hard for me, especially since I'm a Wretched 'speller' and a People Pleaser- not a good combo. Anyways. I just wanted to say sorry if I hurt anyones feelings!!!! I have received texted concern from some of these but I'm betting there may be more out there. I LOVE that this person contacted me with their hurt. If you have questions or concerns about it, PLEASE come talk to me {and or Matt}.
I have considered taking down the post but have chosen not to. A couple of reasons why:
- This honesty is something that needed to be said. I wasn't attempting to be malicious. I wasn't attempting to bash this church. I was writing how I felt about circumstances in my life. I did not say this was the church as a whole. But my life isn't all sunshine and roses. Sorry to disappoint-Christianity doesn't "fix" life.
- I also wanted to say that those were my feelings at that time. I was only 'allowed' a few minutes to attempt to put it into words. I wanted to write a follow-up post but now I'm afraid that some may think it's to apease them. What I didn't get to say in those few minutes was that I am overly sad to leave The Church we've been in for the past two years!!! The community God has built. It's something we've never experienced. I've actually talked about that in a previous 5MF post: Community and several other posts {THE Church, What I'm Called to Do}, just not during my hurting while writing that post.
Facts:
I love God!
I love that He loved me even though I'm a big fat sinner!
I love that He no longer sees any of that past the blood of Christ that covers me!
I love the journey God has taken me on thus far. INCLUDING being at this church!!!
I love The Church at Central!
I love what God has taught us at this church!
I love where God is taking us now!
I will not shy away from the truth though. Bringing sin into the light is what the Bible asks us to do. I will not deny that this church as well as ALL churches in America have faults. The Church is...people. People who follow Christ. Those people still = sinners. The Church at this church loved on us more than we ever expected. That's part of how God drew us to this place. I was so full of joy, even just those 1st few weeks we were here, because of their love for us. I'm putting this out there because I want to live, as I've said a bazillion times before, a Transparent Christian Life! "In all that I am a Christ-follower. THAT sums up my entire being. It defines who I am in every other realm. It directs how I live in every situation."
The goal of this blog is to let me write. I love writing. We {christians} are called to make disciples As we are Going. I want to make disciples teaching them how I am 'dealing' with any and everything situation as I'm going. This is my outlet. As a stay-at-home-mom, you kind of have to make those outlets happen. It may not do all these things at once but this is my purpose:
Gossip Kills. Please come talk to us!
Identity {5 minute Friday}
On Fridays over here a group of people who love to throw caution to the wind and just write gather to share what five minutes buys them. Just five minutes. Unscripted. Unedited. Real.
Your words. This shared feast.
If you have five minutes, we have a writing challenge <—click to tweet this!
1. Write for 5 minutes flat – no editing, no over thinking, no backtracking 2. Link back at the gypsy mamma and invite others to join in. 3. Please visit the person who linked up before you & encourage them in their comments.
OK, are you ready? Facebook chimed in last night and overwhelmingly voted for a prompt either about mothers or Mother’s Day. This was one of the suggestions and I love that it can apply to any and all, mother or not. So please give me your best five minutes on:
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Identity…
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Who am I. I'm a daughter. I am a sister. I am a friend. I am a wife. I am a daughter-in-law. I am a sister-in-law. I am a college graduate with a psychology degree. I am a mother. I am a home owner. I am a youth minister {about to be a church planter/pastor}'s wife. I am a crafter. I am a blogger. I guess that means I'm a writer.
In all that I am a Christ-follower. THAT sums up my entire being. I defines who I am in everyother relm. It directs how I live in every situation. I follow Jesus. I sound like a looney tune. Some view me as a crazy girl in some kind of cult. Some think I am all about rules. Some don't know my Jesus.
I am a sinner. A big fat sinner. I make tons of mistake most of which I still don't like to admit to {just ask my hubs}.
I am forgiven. Of everything. Past. Present. Future. I am no longer seen as that big, fat, nasty, filthy, horrible sinner. I am seen as Christ. He stand in my place. He is my identiy.
Some days I remember this and some days God has to remind me. Other's see me as all kinds of things but God, the One who matters, sees me as a saint.
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When I started this post some time ago. I was planning on heading in a completely different direction. I planned on sharing with you what God has been teaching me about His character {bahaha}. How He wants me to parent in His image.
10 min later I found myself in the middle of an un-anticipated list of questions/statements. I was about to begin responding to the list that ended up being about even more than just parenting. I realized it was all in an attempt to defend myself. To defend my parenting. My lifestyle choses. My convictions. I was out once and for all to prove I. Was. Right. Right?
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I deleted my self-righteous list. The list of statement and questions I've heard and memorized. The list swirling around and around in my head. The list I held tight to, breeding hatred. Breeding anger. Breeding this giant attempt at a patronizing slam on any and everyone I've ever come in contact with who wasn't my fan. I left the space where the list was beginning to develop. I wanted to show myself {and confess to others}, not my holiness, but my SIN. Just the beginnings of my sin. Barely the surface of my deep darkness of my sin.
This has been my life as long as I can remember. SIN. Even more so over the past couple years. {more deep breaths} I need not defend myself when in the center of God's will. If He is for me, who can be against me? But more importantly--> There is nothing good in me to defend. There is no defense before a Holly God than the blood of Christ. Anything good in me is Jesus. I have nothing to boast in but Jesus.
Forgive me Lord for thinking I have it all together. Forgive me for slandering others in attempt to seem more worthy of your love, forgiveness, mercy, and compassion. Change my heart!!!!
I need to apologize to you, as readers, friends, and fellow bond-servants of Christ, for thinking I'm any more than a sinner saved with the same blood as anyone else. God did not give me this place to gain glory for myself or to tear other down. All I have is to glorify HIM.
Free Printable: There is Nothing good in ME {let this be our prayer reminder}:
Community {~5 min Friday}
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Journey invaded the McDonald's Playland last nite! AWEmazingly fun!!!! Love that group. True #community! instagr.am/p/J8hXBLvb1k/
— Julie Rothacher (@JulesRothacher) April 28, 2012
I could write for hours on community. How to get it all in 5 min...
Since moving 2 years ago, God has given us more community than we could have ever dreamed of. I mean, don't get me wrong. We've been in tiny pockets of community in our past towns but being a "pastor" family, everyone seems to shy away from us as if we're gonna stone'm for saying crap or damn; slap'm if they smoke; report'm if they don't discipline or discipline differently than we do, shun them if they watch "inappropriate shows".
When we moved here and became apart of the Journey Sunday school class we were initiated into COMMUNITY! Community is what the church is supposed to be. Community is Doing Life Together!!! That is what this group of people have become.
We don't just sit in a room together reading a quarterly and announcing prayer request. We "fellowship": share our weeks fun and struggles. Celebrate and cry with one another. Chooooose to hang out together Outside 'class'. Would some days rather have a continuation of "Sunday school" rather than go to 'big church' {shhhh}
We join in the fun of family birthday parties. PACK OUT the McDonald's Playland on a Thursday night while we joke, pass around each others babies, laugh, meet new friends, watch out for each others children, feed each others kids french fries, and watch a kid streeeeeak through the jungle gym while almost bring the McDonald's walls to fall like Jericho with laughter as we watch our friend race to the top of the toy to retrieve her child, his shorts, and diaper. {not rat'n out who ;o)}
I LOVE my community. I love seeing it grow. I love watching as we meet each others needs as well as the ones 'outside' our group who are hurting. I LOVE being the Church with these believers. This is one of the funnest, most meaningful, dedicated to one another, caring, genuine communities I've EVER been in.
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Hold you I could talk for hours about community...that was about 10 min instead of 5. hehehehe
I'll have to write later about how much I've had trouble going deeper and how I'm having trouble staying connected with this HUGE transition quickly coming.
Do you know community? Do you struggle to get knee deeps like most of us women do for fear of being hurt? Do you long for community? Share, PLEASE!!!!
More reads on biblical community:
What Part of the Body are You?
Splints and Talents {Body Parts Continued}